Feelings follow behaviour…
Behaviour follows upbringing…
Upbringing follows culture…
Culture isn’t always a choice. The culture you are born into is usually the culture you practice for most of your childhood. Contrary to what the believers say, ‘you can be whoever you want to be,’ culture can get in your way. If your culture determines your upbringing and your upbringing determines your behaviour, then sometimes your feelings are determined by something out of your control. I use the word ‘sometimes’ and ‘determine’ carefully, because culture doesn’t always determine feelings, not even most of the time, but sometimes it does. Sometimes your feelings are just a result of your parents’ choice to follow a certain culture.
When the time is right we all choose our own culture to follow. That doesn’t mean we forget our upbringing and because we can’t forget our upbringing the behaviour and feelings that follow sometimes are all part and parcel of our culture. Now I’m not saying give up on your dreams for your culture determines everything, I’m saying be aware of your culture and the role it plays in different aspects of your life. Watch your feelings because they can turn out to be more than just those things that follow behaviour.
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Socialization plays a big role in how a child develops. We should be so greatful to have been brought up in a "normal" culture. I also say "normal" carefully, because normality can range from culture to culture and the upbringing of some....
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